Did you ever wonder how it is that some people are always happy? Do you wonder how and why this is? Do you know that there are things that happy people do on a daily basis that keep them happy? I have my moments of unhappiness and they usually occur when I am so wrapped up in me and myself that I give little thought to what is happening around me. When I stop that behavior and apply some of the following techniques to my daily routine, happiness just happens. Here are 12 tips for staying happy …
Tip #1 – Count your blessings. Get a journal and write in it daily. It is all about gratitude and being appreciative for the things that you do have in your life. If we can’t be thankful for what we have already, there is no way we can move forward and find happiness and contentment. We are too focused on what we don’t have and what we focus on will persist in our lives.
Tip #2 – Learn how to forgive those that have brought harm to you or to a situation. I once had a hard time with forgiveness until I realized that I’m not letting the person I’m forgiving off the hook. What I am doing is not dwelling in their muck. I have learned to chalk bad behavior up to experience and immaturity. I find that most people that behave in ways that are less than acceptable, often times are so broken themselves that they really don’t know any other way. I forgive them as a way to allow myself to be compassionate toward their plight. I usually say to myself “I sure am glad I don’t have to live in their skin”! It’s true. I would rather be me and hurt than to have to live the lives that they live anguished. Often times, the people that hurt you are anguished and in a big way.
Again, I find that if I focus on them and what happened, what I focus on will persist in my life. Choosing to forgive them doesn’t mean I have to like them or even interact with them. It just means I have found the common ground to move on. I get to focus on finding the goodness in others and being thankful that I don’t have to walk in their shoes. This attitude makes forgiveness easy and keeps you in the “happy” zone.
Tip #3 – Pay attention to your personal relationships. The more committed you are to your social network and those that are close to you, the happier you will be. Relationships take work and attention, they just don’t happen. Be kind, considerate and understanding of your friends and family. Put in the time and handle with care. You’ll be paid back ten fold with happiness currency.
Tip #4 – Become an optimist. See your glass as half full. Remember it can always be worse. Your thoughts do create your reality so keep them happy and positive. Practice positive thinking. Read positive thought books. Life is too short. Appreciate what you have now. Create positive opportunities step by step, moment by moment. Happiness abounds around every corner.
Tip #5 – Commit! Set a goal and COMMIT to it. No excuses are acceptable. Where there is a will there is a way. Start out with small goals and work your way up as you learn that you can do what you say you are going to do when you stay committed to yourself. Doing what you say and sticking to it reaps big rewards in the quest for happiness.
Tip #6 – Get in the flow of focus! Did you ever feel like time had stopped. Were you ever so focused on a task at hand that you lost track of time? Have you ever been able to focus on a task so intently that no one or no thing distracted you? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you have experienced the flow of focus. You are so into the focused experience that nothing can shake you. Stay in that space as often and as long as you can. When you do, you will find even more happiness than you thought possible. I also refer to this as living in bliss. Find your blissful moments and revel in more happiness. It’s another key to living long and being happy.
Tip #7 – Take care of your physical being! Don’t forget yourself. Taking care of your personal body is another important factor when it comes to being happy. There is nothing more rewarding than grooming and primping and then scanning the overall look of the creature standing in front of you as you gaze at yourself in the mirror. Be a peacock and strut yourself around your domain holding your head high. Take good care of the inside and outside of the skin your soul is housed in. Your body and mind will reward you in countless ways especially in the form of being happy with who you are and what you see standing before you.
Tip #8 – Don’t sweat the small stuff. We seem to think the worst in many situations. If we can learn to lighten up and get a strategy for thinking in a more positive light about any given circumstance, happiness will prevail. Think of things you can do to change your behavior from negative to more positive. Think of ways to cope in a more beneficial, less stressful manner. A few examples of things you can do to change behaviors during times of stress are; deep breathing (slowly inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth), counting to 10, going for a walk, singing a perky song. Give it a try, you might be surprised at what a little forethought and mindfulness can do for your happiness quotient.
Tip #9 – Bud out! It is none of your business what other people think about you! Really happy people don’t give a second thought to what others think about them because they know they do the right thing in most all situations. They have learned that many times, people accuse you of the very things they themselves are guilty of. Let it go if you are a person that is affected by what other people think of you from a negative perspective. What they think has no bearing on who you are. You know who you are and you are a loving, giving, caring person. Nothing else matters when it comes to true happiness.
Tip #10 – Stop and smell the coffee, roses, ozone, chocolate…. If you are buzzing around at break-neck speed, multi-tasking, doing, being, going, frantic to get it all done, you will burn yourself out. Stop and smell the richness of life. Breath in the aromas that abound. Slow down, meditate in the moment and enjoy the joy that is present. Stop and be. We are human beings not human doings. There is great happiness surrounding you in every moment but unless you stop to appreciate it, you’ll be left empty at the end of the day. Fill up your tank and experience happiness from the “full of joy” perspective. It’s beautiful. You will soon realize that you are able to accomplish so much more when you are happy.
Tip #11 – Kindness, kindness everywhere and not a frown in sight. Really happy people spread joy wherever they go. They smile for no reason at all because it feels good. They are quick with a compliment and a kind word. They give compliments freely and allow others to do the same with a heartfelt “thank you”. They do this often, at every opportunity, because doing so brings much satisfaction and pleasure and joy to their life. Remember, the more you give, the more you get back and the more you get back the better you feel and the better you feel means you will automatically help others to feel better too. The better they feel will entice them to continue to give and the more they continue to give the more you will continue to get back and the better all in your company and community will feel and so on and so on and so on. You get the idea … it’s contagious.
Tip #12 – Lend a hand to those in need. Happiness is the payoff for helping those less fortunate or in need. No one is exempt from volunteering their time, their services, their resources whatever they may be. Try it some time. Give more than just the money and see how much happiness abounds your spirit and very being. There is always something you can do. Hold a sick baby in a hospital, read a book to a child, take an elder on an outing or help run an errand, sweep your neighbors doorstep, pick up trash from the sidewalk or yard, deposit a coin in an occupied expired parking meter, visit an elders home and offer to fix something, help a stranded motorist, start a community garden and on and on and on and on. The possibilities are limitless and so in the happiness returned right back at you!
Have other ideas for creating abundant happiness, write me with tip #13, #14, #15, #16 and so on and so on and so on. Let’s come up with ideas and be the change that we want to see in our communities and our world. Help me be A Voice For Change.