Introducing myself in this forum has been the most difficult, interesting and rewarding aspect of developing this Web site. I knew I didn’t want to give you a bunch of details: these you can find on the bio page, mission statement and book list. What I did want to do is convey the essence of who I am and why you might be interested in my insights and expertise. I’ve decided that there are two fundamental things you would want to know and hope you agree.
The first is that I am fundamentally like you and vice versa. This is important. I don’t see why you would be interested in what I have to offer if we cannot identify with each other. I have had, for example, marriage counselors, weight loss coaches, school teachers and spiritual advisers that have never been married, or fat, or parents or introspective. They can be cheerleaders and tell me what I should do but not how to overcome the real life challenges that experience provides. Now this is not to say that I will be all things to all people – of course not. But as I approach 60 I’ve grabbed a lot of life and racked up a ton of experience. This I bring to our relationship along with this simple truth: although we all have unique experiences, the goal is always the same. We all want to be happy in all aspects of our life; physically, emotionally and spiritually.
We see the feeling of happiness as a sign of good health, and we see the lack of happiness as a symptom of ill health — a sign that something must change. The fact that you are reading this likely means that you agree and are unhappy with some aspect of your life. It also means that, like me, you look for help when you don’t know how to negotiate the change. Which brings me to your next step — write to me. Send me an e-mail telling me what you’re looking for in terms of goals and help. If I can’t help, I will let you know and try to find you someone who can. But, if I can help, get ready to be guided to the change you seek.
And this brings me to the second fundamental thing you need to know about me: I am, apparently, good at guiding. I say “apparently” not out of any false modesty, but because helping people effect change in their life is not something I set out to do. I set out to make me happy and when I couldn’t find the answers in the traditional settings such as doctor’s offices and classrooms I looked elsewhere devouring books, attending seminars and tapping into any available resource. And when I couldn’t find what I was looking for, I advertised for like-minded people to form a group to help me explore the possibilities. We called the group PEP (People Empowering People) and it was great but, as with any learning experience, there came a time for me to move on. This transition proved shockingly difficult and gratifying. While I saw myself as a seeker, a student, the other group members saw me as the leader whose departure would signal the demise of the group. At the time I could not accept this role. But, when this same scenario repeated itself over and over again, I had to accept my aptitude to lead. I had to be courageous and overcome my fear based resistance. I had to embrace being the guide everyone, including an impressive list of mentors, was telling me I already was. Why? Because, if I didn’t, I could not expect to grow. No growth, no happiness. Epiphany! So here I am, years later, ready to help you in your quest for happiness. In the process we will both benefit and nothing could make me happier. Well except maybe my little boy Sam. As you can tell from the picture, he makes me very happy! LOL!